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When It Is Better Not To Breastfeed

Posted by on Tuesday, January 19, 2010, 15:48
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In the past, Rh incompatibility, newborn jaundice, Cesarean delivery, cleft lip or palate, inverted nipples and even breast infections were all considered reasons not to nurse .

Today we know breastfeeding is possible in all these cases and even with hepatitis B (with some limitations). We realize even tiny, premature babies, who were once thought to be unable to drink from the breast, can do so, 

Mother’s milk is even more crucial for them than it is for mature babies. Very rarely, babies have to be fed with a mother’s milk substitute because of galactosemi an inability to digest lactose.

There may also be situations in which breastfeeding is contraindicated on the mother’s side.

These situations may include:

–  when she needs to take medication that is absolutely contraindicated for the baby is better not to breastfeed

–  if she has AIDS  better not to breastfeed

–  mental illness or other serious illnesses that weakens mother so much she cannot care for her baby better not to breastfeed

–  current drug use or drug-treatment therapy, such as methadone, that could get into the breast milk better not to breastfeed

If more than two years have passed since a woman has had successful treatment for tuberculosis, it is generally OK to breastfeeding. All medical and psychological reasoning speaks in favor of breastfeeding. This makes some mothers feel they have to breast feed otherwise they won’t be an “ideal mother,” Pressuring our selves this way can backfire.

It can lead to tension in the relationship with our child. That greatly burdens breastfeeding. Children have sensitive “antennas.” They can sense their mom’s reluctance very well, and they will respond with reluctance of their own. Sometimes they even go on strike! Perhaps you decided to try breastfeeding despite genuine ambivalence about it. If so, difficulties and an inner resistance may crop up.

At that point, you might ask yourself:

–  What messages were passed to me about breastfeeding?

–  How influenced am I by the people in my environment who want to talk me out of breastfeeding or who may even ridicule me?

–  Am I torn between my child and my partner, who may be openly jealous?

–  Does the closeness, the intimate contact with my baby during nursing confuse me and create a conflict for me? As a result, do I have trouble letting myself simply enjoy my child?

–  Is it difficult for me to “give myself” to my baby as a source of food and comfort? Where could that reluctance come from?

–  Am I afraid my baby is taking something away from me, is “draining” me?


–  Do your breasts hurt so much that you become tense during breastfeeding? Has this reaction burdened your mutual relationship too much and for too long?

–  Has your baby possibly become used to a bottle and now finds it easier to drink from a bottle than from the breast (maybe throwing a fit whenever you try to feed him)? If so, has this undermined your self confidence?

You may only have to deal with a few “technical” breastfeeding problems. Or you may be bothered by emotional problems primarily, which frequently turn into technical problems. You can find help to overcome these problems from a La Leche League Leader, by attending a support group or by talking to a counselor or therapist if you suspect the problem is more deeply rooted.

In some cases, a woman may offer her baby better mothering if she isn’t breastfeeding. Don’t demand something of yourself that overtaxes you (and your child), To decide, look deep inside yourself look at your vulnerabilities and strengths, assess your present situation with a clear mind and an honest heart.

If the circumstances are too difficult to overcome, it may be better for you to feed your baby lovingly by bottle. If that restores peace and harmony, then it will be better for you to bottle  feed halfheartedly with anguish to both of you. Since I’ve stopped breastfeeding after weeks of struggling, I’ve been able to have an anxiety-free, loving relationship with my child for the first time.

Make a well considered decision, and then stand by it. Above all, free yourself from unrealistic expectations and guilty feelings that create new problems. As important as breastfeeding is, the quality of your relationship with your child, and his relationship to you, is even more important.

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