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Sex Education in School

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Although most parents strongly support sex education in schools, it is still controversial. Parents who oppose it are convinced that we are giving kids permission to “go right out and do it.” They want their children to have the same attitudes and values that they themselves have.

Others feel that sex information forces their children to “grow up too fast.” They want their kids to stay young, innocent, naive and childlike. Like it or not, kids are learning about sex from their friends Much of that is myth and misinformation which could result in a serious situation One common myth You can’t get pregnant the first time you do it, has resulted in countless teen pregnancies.

Our kids deserve better than that.

Studies by Dr James Check at York University Toronto, tell us that most kids are learning about sex from watching porno flicks on the VCR They come home for lunch while parents are at work. They find some good porn tapes that have been stashed away, plug one in and watch women being brutalized, whipped and beaten, apparently enjoying frenzied, passionate orgasms.

Seeing this, kids are convinced that this is the way it should be. This is what women like. So, is it any wonder, then, in a dating situation, if she says “no” to sex, he believes this is the normal pattern and that she really “wants it”? She maywell become the victim of date rape because of this misinformation.

Sex education in schools generally begins in grade nine, focusing on sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) and birth control, with less attention on sexual feelings, love or relationships. It is taught primarily in physical education and health and is more detailed in grade ten. Unfortunately, most kids drop physical education in grade ten, so they may graduate with only the very basic information about sex.

While most school boards have a fairly comprehensive sex education program, many do not touch on the controversial issues such as masturbation, abortion and homosexuality. Some school principals are concerned about negative parental reaction, and for that reason may delete some important aspects. Not all teachers are comfortable teaching sex; still others have moral biases preventing them from teaching the topics adequately.

Consequently, the course may be watered down to the basic “plumbing of sex,” or what Dr. Sol Gordon, a well-known sex educator and author, calls “the relentless search for fallopian tubes.” AIDS triggered a concerted effort to inform kids about its transmission. Now schools are teaching kids about “retrovirus” and “seropositive” and “body fluids.” Because this information has little or no meaning
for kids, they ignore it.

Very few educators talk about the risks of oral-genital sexual contact with an infected partner or about all the risks of anal intercourse. Yet a recent study from Queen’s University of students from across Canada revealed that fifteen percent had been involved in anal sexual activity by the time they went to university. This is high-risk behaviour unless they are practising “safer sex.” Even then, there is an element of risk.

As parents and as educators, we have a duty to teach our kids sexual survival skills, the most important of which is how to use a condom properly every time. And we have to help them develop the communication skills to negotiate safer sex with a partner. To do this, our kids need to be able to talk amongst themselves, or they need to work in small groups to practice roles in different situations so they are familiar and comfortable with the words and phrases that would get their message across without it sounding negative, like a put-down or a rejection.

It is difficult to give your kids this help if you have never been comfortable talking to your partner about sex yourself. So, by reading this book, you can increase your knowledge and your comfort level with the topic. Then you can break down the barriers to learning about sex, to talking about sex and to enjoying your own sexuality.

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