If these warnings signs sound familiar to the signs of having an affair, that is because they are.

Internet addiction is a lot like having a affair, an affair with a computer, along with their relationships formed online. It is same process whenever a person with draws from their main source of support and finds it elsewhere.

The following warnings signs should serve as general guidelines for you to determine whether or not your spouse, family member, or friend may have a problem.

Does your loved one:

1. Spend a lot of time alone with their computer on a regular basis?
2. Become defensive when you confront them with their behavior.
3. Seem either unaware of what they have been doing, or attempt to deny it.
4. Prefer spending time with their computer or on the Internet than with you or other people.
5. Lose interest in other, previously important activities.
6. Appear to be more socially isolated.
7. Seem to be establishing a second life with new and different friends whom they met online.
8. Spend greater amount of time online, and attempt to cover the screen when you come in the room.
9. Arrange unexpected time away from home or business trips or for other reasons, and seem to be away more than usual.
10. Have unexplained changes on your credit card.
11. Exhibit signs that their work or school performances is suffering, they were fired grades are slipping.
12. Talk about their time on the computer incessantly, and seem to draw meaning in their life from this activity,
13. Have legal problems as a result of their Internet behavior.

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To disrupt the rituals you have developed around sex and the internet.

You have to identify and triggers that are likely to remind you to repeat you behavior, and you need to avoid those triggers.

1. Admit to yourself that you may have a problem with your internet behavior when it comes to sex. The act of “making room” within you for this possibility, creates the potential for change to occur.

2. Create a written list of specific behaviours you are uncomfortable with. List those things you do online that may be out of control. If you are logging on to an adult website, speding too much time in chat rooms, engaging in cybersex, or having a real time affair with someone you met online, identify which would you like to change

3. Develop a daily behaviour list. Pick some specific behavior you will do differently every day even it it represents a small change. You want to begin to create a momentum to change so it can spread to other behaviors and eventually to your whole pattern. Do not give up. Stay with it.

4. Identify your bottom line behaviors. The next step is to decide what you absolutely have to change and what you will not tolerate doing any longer.

5. Nothing new can happen if you don;t replace old patterns with new behaviors. Make room for new actions in your romantic life. Try to change even small things that can start the process of change.

6. Begin to wean yourself from online relationships, try to limit your time online. User a timer or clock near your computer. Remember, there is a significant time distortion that occurs when online, so there is a need to reintroduce real life time. Be more aware of time you spend online and offline.

7. Start to go out more. Spend time with couples whose relationships you admire. That to those people. Ask them what they do that improves the quality of their intimate life.

8. Remember that sex and intimacy are not the same. If you have problems in the sex department, that usually means that there are deeper emotional concers that should be addressed. The biggest of which usually involves communication. Spending quality time together and really communicating is essential. Set aside ten minutes a night for each of you to talk to the other. While you loved one talks, you listen. Don’t interrupt. Simply listen.

9. Consider marriage counseling or psychotherapy with a psychologist or other trained mental health professional.

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With the possible exception of the final one, each of these reasons for watching television is clearly related to loneliness and deprivation in the real life of the addicted viewer. When there is real beauty and adventure in your life, there is no need to dramatize it by comparing yourself with characters on sitcoms or routine, the prefabricated adventures of stock characters provide an alternative.

An eminent psychoanalyst has defined boredom as “desire for desire”. We are bored when we know we want something, but we don’t quite know what that something is. Rather than looking for an answer among the programs on television, we should learn to recognize out true needs and find ways to satisfy them in the things we do every day.

This does not require large sums of money or great intelligence or extraordinary talent. Everyone has the ability to create genuine pleasure i their lives, we did it as children, and though we may become estranged it from many years, the power to create joy always remains with us, waiting to be rediscovered and explored.

One of the interesting things of television is the way it make things smaller. Almost anything that appears on the screen in almost always reduced in size from what in is in the real world. In a sense, this is true of all addictive behaviors, they diminish our experience of the world. Addictions demand time, money, intellectual energy, and love that could and should find many other avenues of expression.

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When tv finally did become widely available in the late 1940 and early 1950, it almost instantly became hugely popular. Once television sets began appearing in homes, important changes began in the lifestyles of millions of people. Those transformations have continued, and accelerated, right up to the present.

Today millions of Americans watch television for as much as eight hours a day, but does television watching really meet the diagnostic criteria of addictive behaviour? A great deal of evidence of withdrawal symptoms id one of the defining characteristics of addiction, and television clearly causes such symptoms.

There have been studies in which families were paid several hundred dollars a month for not watching television, but both studies had to be terminated prematurely when the subject simply could not endure the deprivation. Other research indicates that, as with heroin, television withdrawal symptoms for serious viewers are most severe after five to seven days.

The symptoms include feelings of aggression, anxiety, depression, and difficulties in dealing with newly available free time. Subjects who succeeded in keeping their eyes off the screen for a week then began to feel comfortable in their new way of life.

Another marker of addictive behavior is the sense of guilt that accompanies it, and which somehow seems to fuel the addiction rather thab suppress it. In a study of leisure time activities, television was the only that evoked feelings of guilt. Other leisure activities created more pleasure the longer they were pursued, but television produced guilt rather than enjoyment.

There are many other parallels between habitual television watching and other addictions. Like cigarette smoking, it is especially prevalent among the poor. Like heroin and other narcotics, it offers a fantasy world that over time can become a kind of alternative reality for the view. And like all addictions, it derives from the absence of genuine pleasure, joy, and fulfillment in other areas of life.

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We can refer to this as sexual addiction, but we should be aware of the dangerous tendency to judge harshly any sexual behavior that differs from our own. On the other hand, there is no escaping the fact that sexual conduct is an important issue, as well as a target for moralists.

Sexuality is a fascinating and extremely complex subject. In the small space we are able to give to sexual addiction here, I’ll refer to two states of being that seem to result in this behaviour.
In the first of these, there is an overstimulated emotional and physical condition from which release is desperately sought. In the second, there is an almost opposite kind of existence, a flattened landscape badly in need of some excitement.

The human nervous system cannot experience both pain and orgasm at the same time. Since pain, both physical and emotional, is a absent at the moment of sexual climax, it follows that more climaxes mean less pain. I mentioned this because I’ve noticed that many sex addicts are in severe pain.

Quite often it is physical pain, particularly in men, and i’ve observed that men with chronic health problems become preoccupied with sex disproportionately often, The great poet Lord Byron, for example, had a clubfoot and endured severe pain throughout his short life. By today’s standards, Byron would definitely be considered a sex addict.

Sex can also provide an escape from emotional as well as physical pain, not only at the moment of orgasm but throughout all the stages of search and seduction. Quite often a sex addict really wants and needs to be liked, but since he or she feels excluded from this, the alternative is to be loved, at least in a physical sense.

For people who become sexual addicts to escape pain, sex provides a kind of tranquillity. These people’s systems are chronically overstimulated and the purpose OS sex is more to dampen their internal fires than to ignite them.

A second category of sexual addiction results from a kind of under stimulation that culminates in depression. Some escape has to be found from an apparantly purposeless existence, and sex seems to provide it. SEX CAN MEAN EVERYTHING OR IT CAN MEAN NOTHING. Perhaps it is best something somewhere in between.

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For example, we could describe a person who drinks too much as being “out of control”. An alcoholic can’t control his or her behavior respect to drinking.

As the addiction to alcohol progresses, this lack of control eventually expresses itself in obvious ways, trembling, falling down, car accidents, difficulty in sleeping or walking up, and all sorts of other signs that the person’s physical, intellectual, and emotional guidance systems aren’t operating properly.

This may even be a kind of unconscious goal or strategy on the part of some alcoholics, one which is related to the psychoanalytic view of alcoholism as an attempt to deal with unsatisfied needs that go back to infancy. When he loses control, the alcoholic returns to a condition in which other people are called upon to take care of him.

Other may or may not agree to do this, but the out of control alcoholic is asking for , or even demanding, assistance in basic life tasks. The so called workaholic is doing something very different. The so called workaholic is doing something very different.

While alcoholism can often be an almost childlike way of reaching out to people, working all the time is a turning away from others. It is withdrawal into an area of life in which control is called for, and in which mastery is held in high regard. Beneath the behavior of an alcoholic there may be an underlying infantile fantasy, but the workaholic portrays himself or herself as a total adult.

The control fantasy that gives rise to work addiction almost always derives from a sense that other areas of life are beyond one’s control. More specifically, workaholic often feel unequipped to deal with the stresses of family relationships: ‘Don’t bother me, i’ve got to work” seems like a respectable or even an admirable way out.

I’ve always felt that seriousness is a quite toxic  state of mind, and the workaholic has a deep investment in seriousness, work is serious, he is serious about work, therefore he should be taken very seriously. But in fact all the work is a retreat from responsibilities that may be more truly serious than a workaholic want to admit.

If you are devoting every walking minute to your work, ask yourself whether this is really a necessity, or a choice. What might you be called upon to do if your work weren’t so supremely important? Once you become comfortable in other areas of your life, you will no longer need the refuge that work has provided.

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